As we get older, our relationships change. Some people see this as a negative thing, but it’s actually a beautiful part of life and a natural part of the growth process. The best way to keep a strong relationship is by asking questions that help you stay connected with your partner and get to know them better on an intimate level. Here are 21 questions you can ask you’re significant other to strengthen your bond!
What do you need in a relationship?
A good question to ask your partner is: “How do we want our relationship to be different from other relationships?” This can help you better understand what your partner wants from their life and how they feel about the current state of things. For example, maybe he/she wants more time together as a couple or maybe she doesn’t like being alone at night. If so, what would it take for him/her to feel comfortable spending more time with another person? Or maybe she just needs someone who understands her personality better than anyone else does right now because she feels like no one understands her very well anymore (for example, if this was true with past relationships).
What are the things about me that make you happy?
It’s important to know what the other person likes about you. If a relationship is meant to last, it’s important that both parties are happy with each other.
This is a great question for couples to ask because it gives them an opportunity to reflect on how they feel when they’re together. It also gets them thinking about whether or not their partner would be missing out if they were gone from their lives forever!
What are the things about me that drive you crazy?
Any kind of relationship will have its ups and downs, but the key to making it work is being able to talk through your problems. “What are the things about me that drive you crazy?” This question can help you and your partner understand each other better and work on ways to improve your relationship.
If you want to keep your relationship healthy, there will be times when one person needs a little extra attention or help from their partner. By asking this question, it’s clear that you’re willing to put in the effort for them too!
How do you like to be romanced?
Some people think that romance is all about buying gifts and flowers. However, there are other ways to be romantic—and they can be much more meaningful than a bouquet of roses. Consider the following questions to find out how your partner likes to be romanced:
- How do you like to be surprised? Are you more likely to appreciate a surprise date night or random act of kindness?
- What do you need from me when I’m not around? Do you want me to send texts, emails, or messages on social media that remind you how much I care about you?
What was your childhood like?
In asking this question, you’re hoping to learn more about your partner and what made them the person they are today. You can ask it in different ways: What was your childhood like? How did you grow up? What did you like to do as a child? What did you want to be when you grew up? Did anything from that time influence who you are today? Do any of those things still influence who you are now or what plans for the future look like?
Of course, answering this question is easier said than done. Most people aren’t particularly fond of talking about themselves in relation to their past; however, if there are some key events that shaped their identity, then it’s important for both parties involved to understand how those experiences have impacted their outlook on life.
What’s your favorite thing about me?
I know what you’re thinking—this is a pretty loaded question. But it’s OK! You can go into this with ease, because it’s important to both of you. Your partner needs to know that the best part of your relationship is also the best part about them and vice versa.
When someone tells me what their favorite thing about me is, I feel like I’ve won the lottery. It’s such an honor when someone says something so nice about me that it makes my heart melt (but don’t tell anyone). The same goes for when someone tells me their favorite thing about themselves or our relationship; it makes me feel good inside knowing they appreciate those parts of us!
How would you describe yourself as a partner?
Remember: good communication is key. Communication is the foundation of a healthy relationship, and it’s important to be able to express your feelings when things are going well, as well as when they’re not going so well. It’s also important to be able to listen and empathize with your partner—it’s easy to respond defensively when someone expresses an opinion or emotion that differs from yours, but this kind of defensiveness will only cause more harm than good in the long run.
Another important aspect of communication is being able to give constructive criticism without coming off as defensive or aggressive (which can erode trust between partners). In order for you two to improve together as individuals and as a couple, each person should feel safe expressing their needs and wants without fear of judgment or rejection; likewise, you should feel safe asking for such expression from them!
If you’re struggling with any aspect of communication with your partner—or if there are other ways that need improving—don’t hesitate about reaching out for help! There are professionals who specialize in helping people through conflict resolution; speaking with them can be just what you need right now!
What do you want to change in your life?
- What do you want to change in your life?
- How do you plan to make those changes happen?
Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? Why?
- Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert? Why?
- How do you recharge when you’re feeling tired or overwhelmed?
This question is great for two reasons. First, it allows both partners to describe their personality and how they relate to the world at large. This can help both parties understand each other better, and allow them to know how best to support each other through life’s ups and downs. Second, it also gives both partners insight into how their partner likes spending time alone—or not alone! If one person needs more solitude than the other person does, then that could cause problems in your relationship if things aren’t worked out beforehand.
Where is your favorite place in the world?
Your partner might describe his or her favorite place as a beach, or maybe a park. Maybe it’s somewhere in the country, or even somewhere overseas. Describe the best part of that location: what makes it so special? Is it the scenery? Or is it something else entirely?
If your partner mentions any physical attributes of their location (like mountains or trees), ask them why they enjoy those things so much. What makes them appealing to you? If there are any negative aspects of this place (such as crowds), ask your partner how he/she would improve those issues if possible.
If money wasn’t an issue, where would you live?
If money wasn’t an issue, where would you live?
Why do you want to live there? What makes that place so special? How does it make you feel? What’s it like living there?
How did your last relationship end, and what did you learn from it?
The next question is a bit more serious and personal, but it’s also an important one to ask your partner.
How did your last relationship end, and what did you learn from it?
If you’re hesitant to discuss the end of a previous relationship with your current partner, don’t be worried about it. It could just mean that both of you are ready for something new. But if this is something that matters to you and affects how you feel about relationships moving forward, then there are some things about this question that might make it easier for them in the future:
- It allows them to reflect on their past experiences in order to improve future ones (whether they want help or not). 2) It gives us insight into how they deal with conflict resolution and communication issues. 3) It reminds us that we can always grow as individuals—even if our past relationships didn’t work out!
Is there anything I do that makes you feel uncomfortable or insecure?
If you don’t know, ask. And if you don’t want to hurt their feelings and risk their insecurity, tell them what makes you uncomfortable and why it’s important for them to know about it so they can stop doing that thing!
When is it OK to compromise when we disagree on something important, and when should we agree to disagree and drop it for now until we can agree on it later? (If we ever can!)
Compromise is when both parties are willing to give up something. For example, we might compromise on whether or not to go out with friends this weekend if I go shopping with him tomorrow afternoon and he makes dinner for me tonight. This works because there’s a win-win situation that satisfies both of us: I get my time out with friends and he gets my time at home doing things for him!
Agreeing to disagree means agreeing that one person will give up something and the other won’t. When we disagree about whether or not certain foods should be allowed in the house (like junk food), agreeing to disagree allows each partner some freedom over their personal choices without sacrificing their partner’s preferences or values. If either party feels very strongly about something (for example, being vegan versus vegetarian), then chances are good that they won’t want their partner compromising on this issue any time soon!
Are there things that I do that make you uncomfortable or upset but haven’t told me about because you don’t want to hurt my feelings or cause conflict between us? If so, what are those things and why is it important for me to know about them now?
Are there things that I do that make you uncomfortable or upset but haven’t told me about because you don’t want to hurt my feelings or cause conflict between us? If so, what are those things and why is it important for me to know about them now?
This is a question about how you can make each other happy. It’s important to know what makes your partner happy, and not just because they won’t be able to let you know otherwise—but also because if you’re trying to make them happy but don’t know what specifically would do so, then chances are high your efforts will fail. You can’t make them happy if you don’t know what they want. And even worse than that: if you give up too soon on something because it didn’t work once (or twice), then chances are high that no matter how hard either of us tries at some other time in our relationship…it still won’t work…
If you want to get to know your partner better, then these are the questions that will help. They’re not all easy, but they can be fun and revealing if you ask them with sincerity, honesty and a desire for genuine connection. And remember: The best way to have a good relationship is by being open about what you want in life as well as what’s important to you in an intimate relationship with another person.
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